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The damage done to us during our childhood cannot be undone

May 06, 2015

The damage done to us during our childhood cannot be undone

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Recovery in Ten Stages means us gaining the courage to peel back layers of pain and sadness

Recovery in Ten Stages means us gaining the courage to peel back layers of pain and sadness. The courage to be raw and still in the face of whatever arises. The willingness to begin and move through the pain and sadness. The willingness to take the time and have the patience with ourselves. Although it might feel unfamiliar, uncomfortable, or frightening, the reward is more than worth the journey. Because loving kindness is the seed of happiness in our recovery. The practice of loving kindness is a simple, gentle and time-proven method to help us discover the spring of love that exists within and, as a result, enjoy more happiness in life. Ironically, we may not actually realise we’re lacking in self-love. So how could we even get serious about it? Here’s the problem. If we didn’t feel a pervasive feeling of love as a child, we just don’t know what we’re missing. We haven’t had an experience of it. Sure, we are all searching for love in the form of that special someone, but often...

Repressed and suppressed emotions and feelings require dissociated-energy to keep them submerged.

Repressed and suppressed emotions and feelings require dissociated-energy to keep them submerged. It takes energy to hold down our feelings. As these feelings are relinquished, the energy that had been holding down the negativity is now freed for constructive uses.

Recovery in Ten Stages means us gaining the courage to peel back layers of pain and sadness

The chemicals that are running our body and our brain are the same chemicals that are involved in emotion. And that says to us that . . . we had better pay more attention to emotions with respect to healthy Recovery in Ten Stages means us gaining the courage to peel back layers of pain and sadness

Our child within has been taught from a young age to seek approval from our parents for the things we said or did.

Our child within has been taught from a young age to seek approval from our parents for the things we said or did. Since the need for approval, love and acceptance from our parents is strong, we become conditioned over time to seek approval from others as well. Whenever we don’t receive approval from someone who is not our parent, there is an automatic trigger and desire to win it back . When we aren’t met with approval, we no longer feel safe and protected. “When we meet ridicule or rejection, it can undermine our view of ourselves,” “If we internalise this kind of negative feedback, we can begin to doubt our personal worth. This threatens our sense of security and disrupts our inner harmony.” It is important we reconnect to our child within and gently release the need to constantly seek approval.In our studies as we reconnect we resurrect our intuitive voice that needs no approval, and hence guides our life in a healthy self affirming positive language of the heart.

The Ten Stages are studied recovery.They are a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back

Dissociation—being split-off from part or all of our emotions, inner truth, or history—is lauded in our troubled world as health. Families love chil- dren who do not cry or whine, but achieve or feign happiness in spite of their misery. People who are dissociated are often con dent, strong, and sure of themselves, because they lean on a totally false self, and lack the conscious feelings which invariably block this falsity. These people often look like the healthiest of all, and in the sickest social environments they rise to the top—and become leaders. They are often praised for their skill, power, and enlightenment, though in reality they are just mimicking a truly healed person. The truly healed person has earned his connection with his true self, and thus his enlightenment is not false, his con dence not built on sand, his leadership not built on corruption, and his motives conscious and pure—to his depths. Related articles True contact with the child within brings treme...

Ten Stages self-reflection allows us to ask ourselves a question in our own mind

Recovery in Ten Stages self-reflection gently allows us to ask ourselves a question in our own mind, and then lets us freely associate to our answer. Our mind has the capacity to always give us just the answer we need at any given time – and to answer with the most beautiful truth – if only we ask and listen for an answer. Inner Dialoguing with our released intuitive voice is almost a magical technique, because it is so simple and obvious: ask yourself a question and just listen for the answer! Why it can be so hard for so many people, however, is that they live their lives so dishonestly that they are terrified to GET an answer that often requires action. It might really rock their boat. But that can be no excuse for ten stage truth-seekers. If our boat is faulty it needs to be rocked, and sometimes a good rocking shows right where the weaknesses are – which allows us in time to repair them. We actually use Inner Dialoguing regularly in our study sessi...

“I can’t think properly” . Our Child Within describes its thought disorder from the inside.

“I can’t think properly” . Our Child Within describes its thought disorder from the inside. We can think clearly enough about a myriad other topics – but we immediately have trouble when we begins to focus on how memories of childhood derail our thinking. Variable and strategic thought block, is apparent when we attempt to contact the child within. A thought process built on defence has to be breached by studying each thought process.This is engaged by the ten stage program a work around for the thought blocking engaged from childhood. Unfortunately often our child within has been prescribed so-called ‘anti-psychotic’ drugs which degrade the whole sensorium, not just those parts already blocked, a sledgehammer by any other name. Indeed this is one explanation why they hinder recovery – childhood coping strategies become difficult to ‘engage’, if thinking about them is obliterated not only emotionally, but also chemically. A two pronged denial takes place often increased by th...

RECOVERY is the conscious awareness of truth

RECOVERY is the conscious awareness of truth. Everyone who has any consciousness is enlightened to a degree, but where we are blocked from having resolved our own traumas of childhood – or adulthood – We will be blocked from our awareness of full reality. Full RECOVERY is a consequence of the full resolution of our traumas. Related articles Recovery is the conscious awareness of truth. Our conscious mind - believe it or not - is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour. Awareness is primordial; it is the original state, beginningless, endless, uncaused, unsupported, without parts, without change The first act of honouring the self is the assertion of consciousness. You are awareness. Awareness is another name for you. As you grow stronger our self-doubt will weaken.

If we want to know what’s going on down there in the basement of our mind , you need look no further than our dreams.

“Dreams are the royal road to the unconscious.” If we want to know what’s going on down there in the basement of our mind , you need look no further than our dreams. The only problem with understanding our dreams is that they express our deepest truth entirely in code – through metaphor. Everything in a dream has meaning, and the hard work of decoding the symbols of our dreams – that is, getting to know the symbols of our own unconscious – will bring us right in touch with the depths of who we are, and what our unconscious conflicts really are. This is tough work, and often humbling and ugly, but if we can hang with it, the rewards will be well worth the effort!

The Tea-Master & the Assassin

Taiko, a warrior who lived in Japan before the Tokugawa era, studied Cha-no-yu, tea etiquette, with Sen no Rikyu, a teacher of that aesthetical expression of calmness and contentment. Taiko's attendant warrior Kato interpreted his superior's enthusiasm for tea etiquette as negligence of state affairs, so he decided to kill Sen no Rikyu. He pretended to make a social call upon the tea-master and was invited to drink tea. The master, who was well skilled in his art, saw at a glance the warrior's intention, so he invited Kato to leave his sword outside before entering the room for the ceremony, explaining the Cha-no-yu represents peacefulness itself. Kato would not listen to this. "I am a warrior," he said. "I always have my sword with me. Cha-no-yu or no Cha-no-yu, I have my sword." "Very well. Bring your sword in and have some tea," consented Sen no Rikyu. The kettle was boiling on the charcoal fire. Suddenly Sen no Rikyu tipped it over....

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“I can’t think properly” . Our Child Within describes its thought disorder from the inside.
and as we read the posts we feel a tingling sensation in our gut and a chill going down my spine.
and don't worry about what you can't change.
anxiety and desperation.
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Child Within Journal – that is
Compassion is the answer
Craving

Deep Shamanic music meditation.
Desire and Lust in a Consumer Society
Dissociation being split-off from our child within mimics recovery
Dream Warrior Recovery: Individual selfhood is expressed in the self's capacity for self-transcendence
Dreams are the royal road to the unconscious
Every moment of self-doubt
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Full RECOVERY is a consequence of the full resolution of our traumas.
Gautama Buddha
HOW DID WE END UP WITH SUCH NEGATIVE BELIEFS ABOUT OURSELVES?
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No matter the trauma. we made it. Try not to carry that backpack of negativity any longer than necessary.
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Our child within has been taught from a young age to seek approval from our parents for the things we said or did.
our fears
our point of view
Positive experiences that contradict a traumatised child's negative expectations are critical to helping the mind to readjust itself.
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Recovery in Ten Stages means us gaining the courage to peel back layers of pain and sadness
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Repressed and suppressed emotions and feelings require dissociated-energy to keep them submerged.
Some of us were obsessively forced to make conquests with women or men
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Stages self-reflection allows us to ask ourselves a question in our own mind
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The damage done to us during our childhood cannot be undone
The Stages seeks a solution that moves us beyond his or her "painful inner dialogue." and out into the clear blue waters of recovery.
The Ten Stages are studied recovery.They are a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back
The Truth of The Stages resonates strongly with us
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to seduce and then to abandon them
Truth comes from deep within us.
We are becoming modern SOOTHSAYERS In the Ten Stages we study self-reflection.
We encourage students to become real adults by HEALING the wounds of their childhood.
We have a hunch early on that it is there – We can feel the quiet fear
We who are dissociated are not easily emotionally ruffled
What is this inner revolution?
writing down the truth of our feelings
You must learn to trust your inner calling right now.
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